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A successful negotiation yields several things: connection, identification of shared activities, and what boundaries will be respected. Boundaries generally fall into two : hard and soft limits. It may protect an area of trauma or something which is sacred to one or all partners. It may also deate an activity which is simply not appealing for any reason.

Limits are not for validation or approval of activities or interest in sexual practices.

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Limits exist to mark the boundaries of consensual activity. For example, many people have a hard limit on face slapping. It might relate to domestic violence experienced in the past or it might just not be fun for them. Others have a hard limit on fluid exchange or sexual intercourse outside of a primary relationship and therefore abstain from certain activities except with their primary partner.

These limits must be taken seriously and protected by both partners. This is true even if they are the limit of only one. Violation of these limits may be catastrophic and can cause further trauma to the person who needs the boundary.

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In this case, face slapping may cause the play relationship to end altogether. A soft limit is one which might be renegotiated later. These can mark the areas or edges where play is not explicitly desired, but is possibly exciting. A soft limit can include an activity which is new to one or both partners.

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Sometimes soft limits are discovered during play. These limits are sometimes known before play, sometimes they are learned during play. For example, b might communicate a desire to try impact but also a soft limit on canes to T. Maybe they are new play partners and b want to feel how T strikes before using harder implements. Or perhaps b has never tried canes before and is curious but not ready, yet.

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Thus, caning could be edge play. If the T observes that b is warming to the idea, T might try one mild test stroke with a cane. Then, T would check in and observe carefully to see how b responds. Edge play can be exciting, but is best reserved for play partners who know and trust each other.

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For example, if partners agree that penis in vagina PIV sex is on the menu but A wants condoms and B does not, guess what? They wear condoms. No pressure, no further discussion, or no PIV sex.

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A might feel safer to explore knowing that if the scene starts to feel too far outside the comfort zone, it is ok to say so and that B will hear and respect that. B already established trust by agreeing to condoms in the last example and A feels safer to explore. This respect builds trust which creates freedom for to explore, essentially expanding the opportunity and potential of play together.

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